She may be looking for love or just hungry for attention. It isn't driven by insecurity. Or am I just being silly? I operate on the fact that it is a habitual and disrespectful ploy to hide a double lifestyle. I guess I'm J. a prude, then, because I believe there are better places to hang out than bars and that if you are married or committed and have children, your time is better spent with them. "[I]f you find your partner making excuses to not have sex and instead they pleasure themselves or watch porn, this may be a sign something is up with your relationship," Hershenson says. I've seen a lot of posts on here recently about whether its ok for a married or committed person to go to lunch/bar with single person of the opposite sex (or same gender depending on preference) and it had M. wondering if you guys/girls ever go to a bar or an establishment where other singles are and talk to new people? A bar you've been to with him and women are frequently coming to say hi to him, hugging him, getting his attention. He didn't let me know anything. In recent years, there has been a growing need for safer opioid alternatives. Would you or should I be bothered by the fact that she seems to want to go there without me? You wanna pay me 500 bucks an hour I can ask you as many questions as you feel like answering. "Whereas happy, committed couples tend to spend more time with couple friends and doing things together. 1. I'm in need of help my boyfriend and I have been dating go a year and a bit he rang me telling me he going to a work do and that he would call in the morning I hqvent from him since I have his wallet and everything I'm so worried he might be cheating on me what do I do ?? I think you need to face up to that and . If he doesn't give you the reaction your after. You likely question yourself asking whether it's something about you . Boyfriends are different than husbands. I mean I'd understand if he were a shady person, but he's not. It's really important to M. that I have connected, powerful, deep friendships. It would be awkward coz we usually hang out with each other alongside other people. We asked if we could use the gift certificate right then for lunch and still get the $5 off coupon. There's really very little I can do to *make* him act with integrity and honor, besides doing so myself. He he knows your always in he feels safe. I am a very touchy feely person. He wanted to go to bars CONSTANTLY. Tell him you also have a good time there even when you cannot wait to see him again. All this woman wants to know is if her boyfriend is going out, because when you care for someone, it just nice to know. To a bar he goes to frequently and before he met with you, would meet up with a lot of girls, some of which are a lot younger and they still frequent this bar. wha NC for 4 months, ex didn't send me a text call or Anything for my Bday, tog She only talks, or texts in response to my call/text. The answer isn't to NOT go to the bar or NOT get on FB. If I wanted to go out to a bar with a bunch of girlfriends my husband would tell M. to have a good time and same for himthey guys go for a drink after work, sure join them (J. let M. know so I don't have dinner waiting). Even though I know he wouldn't just the thought of my boyfriend getting drunk worries me that he will make a bad decision. Check out Romper's new video series, Bearing The Motherload, where disagreeing parents from different sides of an issue sit down with a mediator and talk about how to support (and not judge) each others parenting perspectives. Hi dan,my girlfriend and I are together for 2 years now,and its the 3rd time that she has been to the club without me,she even says that she doesn't want any commitments now,where as I do,During these 2 years we haven't been to a club together,and I don't know what's going on behind my back,but she goes with her elder girl cousins to . Davidgrx Yes I go out without my husband and he without M. in mixed company. You don't want to make it awkward and post up at the bar, quietly waiting. Night after Friday night, he'd ask about my week, make jokes with me during lulls in the bar rush, and never charge me for my vodka buzz. Usually guys will start going to the bar alone if they are starting to build up the guts to cheat. I was always like, I can't help it, we're in a bar and apparently I'm a hot commodity, ha! You get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you're worried he's cheating, or that you aren't good enough and he'll find someone better. She went out with the girls one too many times. My husband knows how I am with and with out ( I act the same way no matter what) him and he has no problem with it. I would personally feel like a prisoner if he didnt "allow" it and would find it unhealthy. The problem is every time he's with his friends, he forgets about me completely and he doesn't want other to know that he is into a long distance relationship. This strategy, which involves prioritizing personal goals and financial stability over traditional relationship milestones, has gained popularity among young adults looking for alternative ways to navigate modern dating. You could talk to him about what he wants and what you want, and reach an agreement together. Holy crap youre a dick. It was tough for the first several months because of fear she might cheat like my 1st gf. She may be loud and obnoxious, overly flirtatious, and quite often visibly tanked. As I mentioned above, he may just need some time to himself. I toned down my friendliness over the years to make him more comfortable. How do I know, bad breakup. this has been posted a long time ago and i hope you're not with him anymore. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. Its not ****ing baseball. I thought this was an interesting point of view, and it made sense because women are in touch with the emotional side of attraction more than men are. Am I allowed to go to them on my own? Do I flirt with guys at bars when I'm out with friends? We met online and rea Why does he text me all day about sweet things and stuff but never call? Learn to trust your partner. I would not judge, unless it was something a man or woman was doing to pick up one night stands.. My bf lives in the same town as me but i only see him when he`s not stoned or drunk. This is emotionally manipulative behavior. Every hour of his free time doesn't have to be dedicated to you. You get worried when you see your partner with someone else. Everyone on this site is so over dramatic! He is allowed to go where he wants. Even if you don't actually go out. Women shouldn't have to act like Jason Bourne going to crazy lengths to avoid attention just to have a drink and listen to a band without harassment. He has no outside friends or interests. The "New Age" opinion. ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, 21 hours ago, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:16 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:24 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:29 PM, By going out alone indicates infedlity " potentially" or alcoholism. They might give M. a hug, but that's where it ends. Get a shock collar too so if steps out line you can zap him. Tinder, the popular dating app, is no longer just for hookups. Traveling for work aside, if your partner tries to leave you behind, that's probably not a great sign. I never expected much because I knew the type of person I was dating. Part of your discomfort about your boyfriend going out may be because you wish you were doing the same. But its not like we would go kissing others anyways but just saying Just calming say you will be "going out tonight/the weekend" for some fun with friends, he can enjoy himself with his. I envy those who can go out. Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. My boyfriend wants to go clubbing alone My boyfriend of one year who is long distance at the moment thinks it would be totally fine for him to go to a club by himself. I think that he asked that question confirms why you have your specific boyfriend and why that guy is not said boyfriend. FOr M. it will always depend on trust. Well, amazing how a six year old post gets a reply but upon reading, as much as six months ago someone needed clarification. And I kinda think your J. as likely to get picked up having a coffee at starbucks. I just want to hear stories of people whose SO goes out with his/her friends and your ok with it? So I asked him and he said the girl bit him. maybe get some counseling or something before you make a mistake and let your insecurities get in the way. In the past he would ask me if he can go out with his friend to the bar because he knew I get very nervous. Short answer: yes, it's okay. So *would* I go to a bar w/out my spouse? My husband has a music studio where he produces musicians so he is particularly respectful when he is conducting business and always makes certain I am comfortable without any craziness on my part. He would always tell me that well im not going to be able to see them that much when the baby comes. Suggest your wife that she can have time for herself too. I on the other hand don't know a single woman who is attracted to other women. It premiered on TNT on July 12, 2010, and set a record as cable TV's most watched commercial-supported series launch. But he lets M. dance with who ever when we go out J. so he doesn't have to get out on the floor. The latest Arizona headlines, breaking news, in-depth investigations, politics, and local community stories that matter to you. He would attend the lingerie shows there and take pictures with the girls who apparently knew him by 1st name. So drinking isn't something we *enjoy* doing. I never told her it was on my mind but she knew that my first relationship went sour because if infidelity. React Reply Cleveland Follow Explorer Age: 36 , mho 37% +1 y If he can go out so can you. Does that make sense? FLirt but come home to M.. You know? But when it seems like there's a sharp increase in time apart, that's not a good sign for your relationship.". Do I do that without my SO? 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